Amen!

So up until this year, I don’t think I would have believed in the sentiment of this quote. However, as life experience so frequently does, it opened my eyes and mind to the truth within this perspective.  It has again been two weeks since my last post. In that posting, I was talking about feeling as though I was the bicyclist upon the tight rope.  I have at least five very separate and very distinct life roles I play everyday.  One is a mom, the other is a business owner, the third is a dreamer/aspiring author, the fourth is a constant caregiver/housekeeper, and the fifth is a teenage transporter (this is my least favorite one of all).  These are just the hats I wear on a daily basis.  As busy lives seem to embody, unexpected and pressing things frequently pop up.  As they do, I am the person those responsibilities fall onto.  So, it is yet another hat with its own separate and unique responsibilities that I must wear.  Needless to say ( and I am confident that I am not alone in this scenario), I get a little tired and sometimes feel overwhelmed. 

This is a challenging lifestyle for anyone to maintain, but I think it brings its own set of challenges when you are a personality (like me) who thrives on calm and easy going energy.  Well, recent events have really tested my will to endure and my ability to thrive. Back in November of 2017, a very close family friend (the man who the ‘Gone, but not forgotten’ post is about) went into the hospital.  During that difficult week and the months following his unhappy stay, I was his primary caregiver and dog sitter.  Then my daughter and I came down with the flu in January.  Pop’s ended up back in the hospital at this same time.  We didn’t go see him because we did not want to add to his problems.  He ended up passing away the first weekend in February.  Also in November, my father-in-law had a stroke, just two days after Pop’s was released from his first stay.  Thankfully, my father-in-law was able to receive some potent medication which removed all effects of the stroke.  In the months between January to March, my daughter had some school issues, our truck required an expensive repair, and my poor dog is dealing with a recurrent skin allergy.  All the while, we are pressing along as positively as possible.  Truly feeling like each hurdle would surely be the last.  Then, just a couple of weeks ago, my mother-in-law had a very critical, life-threatening health situation that landed her in ICU.  Thankfully, and probably only because of the intervention of God and the power of miracles, she is alive.  However, this last event has spiraled off a new set of minor, but still significant life challenges.  My point to all of this…I now see the truth and validity within this quote.

Life truly does test the measure of one’s will when there is nothing to challenge or engage it AND life equally challenges a person’s will when life is full throttle with no sign of releasing its pressure hold.  When we are unengaged, it can become very easy to slip away into a sort of mundane existence.  When we enter into this space, life can seem dull and uninteresting.  Some people may find themselves in a hum-drum lull, often having no clear vision or direction for their own life.  This time challenges the human will by asking the person to step up and create the pathway of their life.  It asks people to take control over the passion and purpose to their existence.  Although this can be a fun and exciting task, it can also be challenging and require a lot of inner self-work. 

At other times within your life, you may find yourself on the other end of the spectrum…too much all of the time.  This is when people run the risk of burning out and falling victim to stress-related health issues.  A person’s will is tested most in the areas of endurance and mastery over their own human condition.  It takes a strong soul to rise from the ashes, and an enduring one to fly calmly amid the storm.  This is the ways in which our human will is tested.  To me, this is the meaning behind this blog’s quote.

I know I wouldn’t have been able to get through these challenging times without first overcoming many of my own not so pleasant human conditions.  Thankfully, I worked hard on healing and properly learning more positive ways to address life’s issues during my ‘nothing happening’ stage.  Because of the self-mastery on the weakest parts of myself, I was able to use my well established boundaries, increased value in the need to say no, and practice self-care as a way to try to maintain the highest sense of balance that I could during these extreme times.  Now mind you, these things have not come without hard decisions and strong positions, but they have given me the ability to endure.  These are the reasons I value self-work and learning the tools and resources we need to overcome the hardships within our human condition.

The other important and primary thing that has gotten me through both of these challenging phases to life is my faith in God.  My need to understand and connect with this omnipresent, omnipotent, higher power was what lead me to the research I have done in the study of science, love, and energy.  Although I can attach the science and my research findings to the presence and realness of God, it is the support and encouragement God offers within my every day life that has made my faith strong and given me the complete and present ability to stay in tact as I muster through these current happenings.

Riding the Tight Rope!

I can’t believe that it has already been two weeks since my last blog post. Although my presence from this page may have been absent, my time-energy-and effort has not! I feel like the man in this picture. Trying to stay balanced in the tight rope of life as I ride my unicycle bike toward the realization of my hopes and dreams. Just as the picture shows, this is a tricky task with a determined focus on the goals at hand. It is an interesting time in my life, as I have always sought the completion of inward or emotional projects. This is the first time that I have actually wanted something outside of myself that had to come about within the physical world and by people I don’t yet know. Even starting my family felt like an internal job to me. 

I have to say, it has been a different kind of energy to work from. Creating something that originates from the hopes and desires that I hold deep within and projecting that out into the physical world for everyone to see is a very different experience for me. It is an exciting and unique part to this journey. As the picture illustrates, I am staying focused on my goals ahead, trusting that the Lord is guiding my path as I work to keep my balance within this exciting challenge of making my dreams come true for all to see. 

Gone, but not forgotten!

So, this may prove to be a difficult post to write.  However, I am dedicated to taking you along the ups and the downs of my journey…so here we go.  I want to start by apologizing for my absence from this site over the last couple of weeks or so.  This post will explain the reason why.

Have you ever had the tremendous honor of having an incredible person in your life who didn’t have to be there because they were family, or pushed on you by someone else?  If so, did this person value and accept you for exactly who you are, never seeking to change or modify you in an effort to fill their own needs?  Honestly, I hope you have; and if not, I pray that you will because these are the most precious relationships within our human world.  Mine came in the form of a man named David Venson, or Pop’s as we knew him.  He was the father of my husband and I’s best friend.  

Pop’s was a simple man who loved his dog, his family, and his beloved wife Margie.  He had been a truck driver for his entire life, and had been living out his golden years in a newly purchased home in my town.  Pop’s was even more inclined than I am to avoid social circles, and he never asked for much from anyone.  He had a keen sense about people., and he took his time in forming relationships; a valuable lesson I now carry with me.  

I met Pop’s during their move to my town 4 years ago.  It started out as going by to help our friend get settled in, or visit when he came into town – he is a truck driver too.  Then it got to where I was going by to check on Pop’s since he was alone most of the time and did have some health problems that affected his balance and things.  Then it got to where my daughter and I were stopping by as much as we could, just because we liked to spend time with him.  Pop’s was a clever board game player, and we all loved taking his dog around the yard.  Before you knew it, we were spending holidays together and feeling like family.

In November of 2017, Pop’s called me one morning and asked me to stop by to feed Willow, his pup.  Of course I did, but this call was unusual.  Pop’s never asked for help, a Venson trait, and I knew something was up.  After taking care of Willow’s morning routine and spending some time with Pop’s that morning, he finally told me about a health scare he had earlier that morning.  He had fallen and it took him a long time to get up.  He was feeling really weak and he was not steady on his feet.  After a couple of hours of discussion, he finally agreed to go to the ER.  The diagnosis wasn’t good, but the prognosis was optimistic.  It was pneumonia, but they felt like it was caught early enough and that everything would be okay.

Unfortunately after several months of health issues, some of which were absolutely avoidable, Pop’s passed away.  He had gone back into the hospital, with pneumonia, the week that I had the flu.  I think it was within two weeks from being released that he passed away. 

I didn’t get to see him much that month.  Between me being sick, then my daughter coming down with it the week after, and the LONG recovery, we didn’t get over there to see him.  I did send him texts while he was in the hospital, but he never answered back.  This was normal and a plan we had devised the first time he was admitted.  You see, Pop’s had a phone and could read the messages, but he didn’t know how to respond by text so it was more like a one-way communication.

I know he is in a better place, and where he wanted to be – right beside his wife Margie.  However, I sure do miss him.  Some days just aren’t the same without his loving presence.  Holidays will be somewhat bittersweet without his company.  And my daughter and I lost an amazing friend, father and grandfather figure.  I will always cherish the time we spent together.  I can still hear him say, “Love you gal.”  My world was a whole lot brighter for knowing him, and my heart is forever more complete because of the time we spent together.

You were one of the greatest men I know, David ‘Pops’ Venson.  You will be deeply missed, but never forgotten.

Side note:  I chose the picture of the blue jay because I think that was the way Pop’s said his final ‘Goodbye’ to me.  I was driving to pick my daughter up from morning dance on Saturday.  This beautiful blue jay, which I hardly ever see, flew down in the road in front of my truck to the point where I had to step on the brake.  Immediately, I thought of Pop’s.  I said to myself that we needed to get by to see him soon.  Then I decided I was going to buy him the hummingbird feeder and birdfeeder pole that I had thought about during Christmas.  I was going to get it before I went to see him next and I was calculating our budget to decide when that might be.  I thought that we could put it outside the dining room window so he could see the birds come to the feeder from the table or the sofa; the places he was most likely to be. 

It was early the next morning that his son called to tell me that Pop’s had passed away.  He had passed away at home.

 

Welcome to the Human Condition!

Welcome to the greatest adventure of all, the human experience. There will be ups and downs, triumphs and defeats, and love and obstacles.  Although we can’t always cherry pick the adventures life will bring us, we can learn how to guide and buffer our human vessel along the way.  As we gain a better understanding of how our body and the natural world works, we can start to take an active role in the life we are creating. 

Let’s face it; the greatest gift we can bring to this world is love. The best thing we can do as a human being is to learn how to lead a life where love can shine full and free.  I call this living a love-based awareness.  Fascinating results have been found within the world of science which lends reason to ideas such as love, the power of the mind, and the significance of energy.  Some implications from the scientific world even suggest that the natural state of being is one of cooperation and collective well-being.  Perhaps the intended path for us truly is one of love and happiness?  So what could be getting in the way?

There are factors of the human condition (which simply put means any aspect of being a human) that if left unchecked, leave room for us to turn against a path of love. Often times, we don’t even realize that this is happening.  Factors such as our childhood upbringing and influences, past experiences, or improperly learned life lessons create the perfect detour from the pathway of love and happiness.  Unfortunately, these factors can be deeply ingrained within us.  They also require proper knowledge about our human condition to bring forward positive, life-lasting change.  By coming to understand some of the core elements of being a human being, such as love, hate, and freewill, we can begin to make more beneficial choices for our life.  There are also unkind and negative factors to this world that often use the appearances of love to deter and shift us from a love-based way of living.  An important part of buffering these unwanted elements comes with having the tools and guidance to know how to handle them.  It is undoubtedly a challenge to overcome these factors, but that is what is required to master our human condition.  This pursuit requires strength, patience, and knowledge to succeed.  Luckily, I have the perfect source for knowledge to get you moving on your way to a happier, healthier, and more loving YOU.  Welcome to The Human Condition: Love, Hate, Freewill & the Force That Moves It All.

 This is the first book in what is intended to be a Human Condition series.  Some of my blog postings and all of the notes within The HC Project page are related to this first book.  Be sure to check my site frequently, as new postings are made weekly.  Feel free to leave your thoughts or comments below.

Sincerely – JS Spirit

Open for Business!

Endless Possibilities Life Coaching Services is now Open for Business!

So, I am now fully recovered from the flu and still keeping my mental fingers crossed that my book proposal is faring well out in California.  However, those are not the only things that I’ve had going on.  I have wanted to counsel and help people since I was young.  I even went to college and earned my Bachelor’s of Science degree in Psychology with a plan to go on to my Doctorate and open a private practice.   Then life got in the way.  I got married and became pregnant at the time that I was finishing my Bachelor’s degree.  Now family and motherhood was dominating my reality and taking center place.  Once I became a parent, I realized working in the psychology field with children and families would be really challenging for me.  I knew my personality well enough to understand that I would be bringing my work home emotionally, and I didn’t want my career to complicate things for my family.  So, I found another way to work with children in the years between staying home to raise my daughter.  This was a good course of action for me, and I have no regrets about the decisions I have made.  Now I am the mother of a VERY busy teenage daughter, and a wife to a husband with a demanding career. That’s when I started getting restless and began to think about my goals and needs.  That’s when the long forgotten plans of having a private practice in psychology came flowing back to me.

I discovered that it would cost me roughly $30,000 to obtain my Doctorate degree.  A financial investment that is not in line with my reality.  Plus, life experience had changed me.  Although I still find value in the theories and foundational concepts of clinical psychology, they are not values that I would bring to my client sessions.  The mention of life coaching had come before me, and about a year ago, I started to give this profession a second thought.  Life coaching holds similar elements to clinical counseling, although there are some very real and distinct differences (which are outlined within my business website).  However, the energy of the work I would be doing was essentially the same.  As I began to look into the logistics and requirements for opening a life coaching practice, I decided this was the professional route for me.  Well, just about one year from the day I started my life coaching certification class, I have launched my life coaching practice worldwide and officially opened for business.  This is a very proud and humbling time for me.  It is something I have worked really hard towards over the years, and invested a lot of energy in learning and fine-tuning.  I am incredibly eager to get to work, and thankful for this opportunity.

If you want to check out what my practice is all about and look at the services I offer, you can visit my business site at epcoachingservices.com, or click on the link at the right side of this site’s homepage. 

  

Somewhere in California!

While I was laid-up in bed recovering from the nasty flu last week, I received an email update about my book proposal.  Somewhere in a California office, there is an editor that either has, or will be reading my book proposal to determine if it makes the cut. 

Holy Cow!

This was exciting news to me.  For one, I at least knew the whereabouts of my beloved proposal.  For two, this meant I was still in the running! 

Now my prayers and happy thoughts really got going.  I am incredibly prayerful that the editor who reads my proposal sees the mission and potential within its pages.  I know that I have A LOT to be desired in a platform following.  I am aware that there is a lot of content within my book.  However, I also know the need for its messages.  I am acutely aware of the force this book and its mission can become.  And I know I am ready, willing, and able to make my plans happen.

So, you may be wondering what this proposal is all about.  Well, my book is about our human condition.  Within the pages of my book, I will take the reader on a journey through the true essences of love and hate with a life-changing stop at the powerful and ever-present element that is our freewill.  We will look at how freewill affects our various relationships and what role energy plays in our everyday life.  Then I will complete the book with some very practical, real-world tips and tools for living a love-based awareness and creating a happier life.  I am actually creating a section within this website to highlight specific book topics and happenings.  You can look for it in the menu bar under The HC Project section. 

Any finger-crossing or well-wishing is much appreciated in regards to my book proposal making it to the next stage of the process.  The official announcement date of the Hay House winners is February 28th.  I will keep you all posted as I journey along! 

Lessons from H3N2

Okay, so I want to start by apologizing for my lack of posts last week.  I was sick in bed with the flu, or H3N2, as I am calling it.  To all my readers out there, please take care of yourself this cold and flu season.  It has been 6 years since I was definably sick, ironically it was the flu last time that took me down.  However, this flu this season is especially difficult and hard to shake once you’ve come down with it.  This post is in light of some of the thoughts that ran through my mind as I was bed-bound.

1. Self-care is Non-Negotiable – This flu was a big reminder and huge wake up call as to how serious this statement is.  I generally considered myself pretty good about self-care, and felt that my long-running health was measure to that.  However, I did notice that the month prior to my coming down with the flu, I was not listening to my body like I should have.  I was goal oriented and deadline set on getting tasks done.  I kept putting off that de-stress activity for another date, and I allowed the stress of what could be to rule my mind far more than it ever should.  My body was trying to tell me with tense muscles and unusual headaches, but I kept chopping it up to outside influences.  All the while forgetting what I know all too well…outside influences can energetically become inside problems.  Well, H3N2 reminded me good and hard about that fact.  The bottom line, there is no substitute for great self-care.  This includes all areas of our human self – physically, emotionally, spiritually, and mentally.  Thanks to learning from life’s lessons, I will continue throughout my 2018 year with a non-negotiable take on my personal self-care.

2.  Good Health is CRUCIAL to Happy Living – Because I am generally a very healthy person, I took for granted how important good health is to happy living.  It is very difficult to not feel good most of the day.  This type of living can reek havoc on your mind.  As a newly practicing life coach, I think this was especially important for me to learn.  Not every person is as blessed with vibrant health as I have been.  For various reasons, there are people who have to struggle with their health every day.  Thanks to the H3N2 virus, I will be much more aware of this reality and of all that I can do professionally to work with and encourage any individuals who may find themselves in this unfortunate fate.

3.  Goals are ONLY good when they suit you best – With a fast approaching launch date of January 31st for my Life Coaching practice, I was starting to feel incredibly stressed about being available as much as I could for all my potential clients. After all, I am opening this practice to help people, so I want to be as accommodating as possible.  However, this was slowly seeping into a people-pleasing mission.  That’s when internal stress arose and my career enjoyment level went down.  I was loosing sight of my actual goals.  The reality is that I am a VERY busy mom with a part-time job in transportation and motherly duties.  This is a solid reality, and one that my husband is unable to share.  For these reasons, my career pursuit is a part-time reality, for now.  Although I have an ambitious career pursuit, to become a published author with a major publishing company and a successful life coach, it is not impossible to accomplish.  The fact is that I knew this.  In fact, I have done my due diligence and created a business plan where both of these outlets can exist and thrive.  The trouble had come from letting the how’s and what if’s overrule the action and enjoyment of simply doing what I had set out to do. 

Thankfully, I am feeling better and I know that this too shall pass.  I appreciate the reminders I gained from the experience, but hope I do not need reminded of them again.  Going after your dreams is exciting and something I hope we all find ourselves doing.  However, it is unrealistic to think it will come without stress, worry, or personal demons.  After all, we are each only human.  I guess the greatest gift we can give to ourselves is a gentle awareness.  An awareness of what really matters, with an eye on where we really aim to go.  All the rest will eventually fade away.